Recently, I’ve had several conversations about motivation and intention—why some women aim to look a certain way, get really lean, strong or, some would say, “look like men”; post fitness progress pictures on Instagram; or pursue physical activity to an extent some would consider a little too much. Why yoga? Why crossfit? Why running? Why this or that?
Is it a hype or does it work?
The first time a good friend of mine mentioned bulletproof coffee or BPC, I visibly flinched. How can coffee, butter and coconut oil be good, let alone drinkable?! I soon discovered its cult-like following on social media, and numerous fitness influencers who swear by its effects. Of course, I have also come across articles warning me of my potential ignorance should I “fall” for the BPC craze. So far though, it seems supporters outnumber detractors, at least in my ‘algorithmically’ manipulated social media networks.
Let me tell you this right away: no one can answer this for you except, well… you. Being in a couple when you’re both in the same city or same home is hard enough, and maintaining an LDR is surely harder. I’m sharing the thinking process that led me to my decision to perhaps help you ask the questions that need to be asked.
This is the third time my husband and I are doing the long-distance thing. While I still think choosing to live in two different places is ‘unnatural’ for a couple, I don’t think it’s weird or unnatural when a couple decide to do so.
While this is my fourth major move as an ‘expat,’ I have to admit there are some things that may seem basic to others, but that I’m still learning with each new move. I’ve gotten much better at negotiating, getting what I deserve (and want), and making sure I’m valued for what I’m worth. Having said that, maybe it’s social conditioning or it could be biological… but I’m well aware that I, like many women, still have the tendency of being ‘too nice’ or not being aggressive enough in communicating my demands and making sure they are met. Here are a few things I’ve learned in a career of 15 years (so far):
In the cold winter months, there’s nothing more soothing than a bowl of hot, spicy, flavourful, freshly cooked soup. I love Thai food, I love the flavour combinations, the use of really fresh and simple ingredients, and the lightness of many of their dishes. Here’s one of my favourites. Enjoy!
This is a really hearty, healthy dish that’s so full of flavour, I just can’t get enough of it! If you’re vegan, just skip the chicken and replace the yoghurt with a non-dairy version. What’s more, if you have leftovers, you can mash it together to make vegan burgers the next day. Enjoy!
Eggs! Rich in protein and oh so delicious! For people like me who work out 6 days a week, ensuring that we get the protein that we need to build that lean muscle, eggs are one of my go-to foods.
Pavlova is one of my favourite desserts and while I’ve always thought it originated from Australia or New Zealand, I’ve read articles that refute this claim. In any case, it’s a treat worth trying. However, this is one of the few desserts I made in the last two years where I actually used normal sugar. I still want to share the recipe with anyone who might be interested, but remember, moderation and balance are key. This is very high in sugar, so be careful 😉 If anyone has a recipe using natural sugar (I’m wondering if sweetening it with apple juice will work), do let me know. Enjoy! xx
What’s your why? That is the single most important question you should answer for yourself. Your why may stay the same or change over time, so it’s crucial to constantly reassess and always have this ultimate personal truth in mind. It’s not faux spirituality or an abstract new age concept. It’s logical and quite simple: how can you be the captain of your own life’s ship if you don’t know where you’re heading?
“We’d like to make you an offer,” the e-mail began. I gasped, whispered yes!, briefly soaked in the feeling of sweet victory, and breathlessly shared the good news with a few people. Then, a few minutes later, it turned to disbelief with a tinge of doubt. Wait, what? They chose me? I wonder why… Note to self: STOP right there. I should’ve Googled it much sooner. Type > > I m p o s t o r S y n d r o m e, and within seconds, I would’ve realised that I wasn’t alone—that feeling like a fraud was more common than I thought. It wasn’t until I came across Natalie Portman’s Harvard Commencement 2015 speech that it dawned on me: it’s NOT just me. Natalie Portman experiences it. Even Natalie Portman. The Natalie Portman. I felt a huge sense of relief. I was then able to detach myself from the “feeling” and look at it objectively. I read article after article and found out that it’s more common among women, and it’s common …